fixes: timeAgo utc parse, reload clears unread, sync-event debug

- detail banner timeAgo: SQLite timestamps are UTC without tz marker,
  JS was parsing them as local. Fixed by appending Z when absent —
  same pattern chat uses. "2h ago" for a 30s-old update is gone.
- banner Reload button now re-fires detail.opened so the collab-buckets
  plugin clears the red dot on the board card and calls mark-card-seen.
  Dismiss (×) still leaves the dot — that's the acknowledgement that
  nothing was actually read.
- instrument /api/relay/poll with a sync_debug field so the JS can
  console.debug what happened on the sync-events sub-request (status,
  count, error body). Helps diagnose "no toast" reports.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 4.6 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>

config.php

@@ -1,7 +1,7 @@
 <?php
 
 define('APP_NAME', 'hyprcrd');
-define('APP_VERSION', '1.8.0');
+define('APP_VERSION', '1.8.1');
 
 // Database path — writable directory, outside webroot
 // DB_PATH / UPLOAD_DIR can be pre-defined by the Electron router for app isolation